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Friday, February 6, 2015


Love is in the air. It's in advertisements, in in store displays,
everyone wants love. Single, married, straight or gay love, Christian
or non-believer, whatever faith, whatever origin or culture, love is
desired. Sure there are many who have been promised love, lost love,
been deeply hurt by what they thought was love, but still it is our
human inclination, it's in our D.N.A.

More often than not, love is presented as a feeling. Indeed something
we call love attracts us to a special someone. But this feeling of
love must be reinforced by actions and experiences. Otherwise it may
simply be lust, a distraction, or a temptation.

The Christian scripture describes it such: "Love is patient and kind;
love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not
insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not
rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all
things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1
Cor. 13 Most of us fail at least one of these qualities of love, but
we've no less love if we can admit it and make amends when possible.

"Love your neighbor as yourself" the bible says. If you cannot love
yourself you will fail loving someone else. An extreme example of the
inability of self-love is when one partner in a relationship kills
his/her lover. To "need" someone is hardly love. Need can easily
imprison the vulnerable.

Love is an action, it is a decision. To extend beyond one's need,
desire, or comfort is the proof of one's true love. It is a mystery
why someone finds that one person they truly loves them. But it is
still the work, the effort, the decision one makes to love that
person, to pursue that person, to become vulnerable and become open to
that person.

In Matthew 5:44 we are told to "love your enemies and pray for those
who persecute you" This may be incomprehensible to many but it is
certainly what our faith would instruct us to do. The ability to love
those who wish us harm may be the highest level of what love truly is.

Love can grow cold the more we allow ourselves to take for granted our
relationships. We can grow lazy in acting lovingly towards friends,
family, lover or God. Such inattention can become the seedbed of
resentment. Recall if you can the humor in Tevye's "Do you love me"
song in Fiddler on the Roof. Romantic Tevye questioning his wife who
is less inclined to sweet talk than the day's labors. A kind word of
acknowledgement, appreciation, and recognition sprinkles the garden of

So it is not frivolous on Valentine's Day to make or give a card, give
a rose, give the gift of a homemade dinner, or treat our loved one to
a free trip to the day spa. It may not be necessary, nor is a flower
or candy the true proof of love. Who can't use a smile, a hug, a kiss?
Love is also the desire to bring joy and happiness to others.

Let us also acknowledge the love that can pierce the heart of someone
who has lost their love be it spouse, child, relative or friend.
Rekindling the ability to love in others is in itself an act of love.

Happy Valentine's Day.

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